I had a friend that I'd grown up with literally since we were both in nappies, until I moved away when I was I reconnected with her on Facebook more than a decade later, trying to mend the friendship, but by then it was already too late. We tried emailing, but it was strange - we had grown so much apart during that time, we didn't know that much about each other anymore. Social media is great for reconnecting, but it does take some getting used to when you need to realize not everyone that was once a part of your life, would want to reconnect again as much as you do.
Very interesting article! Thank you. I've become more nostalgic for past relationships as I see my nieces graduate from college and make great efforts to stay in touch with their friends.
What a great topic! Your experience and honest advice is appreciated. There's a friend from my past who I wish I could find on FB but I haven't been able to locate her, she is probably married now with a new surname. I'd be upset if I did find her and she wasn't as thrilled as I was to re-connect. So, your story really moved me.
Thank you all for your comments. It took me a while to write this hub because it is personal to me. Your comments help me to remember that letting go of the past is sometimes a good thing. And, your positive comments have encouraged me to write more hubs from my own experiences. Sadly, so much of this is so true. It can be frustrating to see people leave your life that you considered so important. I had a few friends on Facebook that I reconnected with and it didn't seem to go well.
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It's true, we have all changed. Voted up! Reconnecting with old friends can be so rewarding or so disappointing. There are some people I would love to find and others I would love to hide from. It is funny how feelings change over the years, too. You know Carolyn you are so right about not reconnecting to some people. I know a lady that I grew up with and we were best friends until we moved in together and she changed. She became a person that I didn't even recognized so I cut off the friendship and never gave it another thought.
However about two years ago, I saw her again for the first time in over ten years.
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What made me realize that this is one person I never want to deal with again is that fact she is still the same person she was back then. No growth or maturity and still doing the same things. As people grow older you would think some things they would put behind them. But oh well such is life. Thank you for your comments. It's sometimes difficult to let old friends go.
It's an ego buster. Still, it creates time and opportunities for new friendships to develop. A thoughtful article! It reminds me of what former first lady Eleanor Roosevelt is quoted as saying, "What other people think of you is none of your business. I think she had it right. We can put our friendship out there open our hearts and our hands and if they aren't accepted we should put them back in our pockets and keep them warm for the next lucky person we let into our lives!
Carolyn, I can relate to "The older I get, the more I feel that need. They're part of our past. Let's take advantage of the present. Other product and company names shown may be trademarks of their respective owners. HubPages and Hubbers authors may earn revenue on this page based on affiliate relationships and advertisements with partners including Amazon, Google, and others. HubPages Inc, a part of Maven Inc.
As a user in the EEA, your approval is needed on a few things. To provide a better website experience, pairedlife. Please choose which areas of our service you consent to our doing so. Carolyn Gibson more. They put that experience in the past and on a shelf. They are different people with totally different lives and interests. They think of you as a person who wants to talk about old times. They do not want to be reminded. I remember calling one person years ago for fundraising. She was a classmate of mine. She said she did not have a pleasant high school experience.
She asked me to please take her name and number off the fundraising roster. Her comments reminded me of her tenure at the school. Their plate is already full of friends, acquaintances, and relatives. You did something to the person in the past that really hurt. There is no payoff to knowing you. Their best accomplishments were done in college. Perhaps he or she is a former lover.
The good and bad memories are still fresh in the mind. There may still be embarrassment at how you broke up. Fear will prevent a person from re-connecting. You were firmly impressed when the two of you worked on a project together. But for him, you are a blur in his mind. Questions must be on-topic, written with proper grammar usage, and understandable to a wide audience. People come; people go; life goes on and the cycle continues. This is why I'm not on Facebook!
Life moves on and peopld change. Facebook gives the illusion that we can all stay in contact and be friends forever. I personally value my privacy and where I am now is where I am now, not ten years ago. Facebook is a pox upon the planet! It's a trap methinks.
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